I have made it to Day 5, which has been quite slow for me. I admit to having spent more time sitting, than I like; but, at least I am still moving forward. For those of you, who have no idea what Day 5 is: I am referring to Day 5 of FlyLady's 31 Beginner Babysteps. My goal is to make it through all 31 days. I have been a flybaby for several years, and I can already see differences in my habits; however, I have never done all 31 days to the end, which is actually only a beginning.
For those of you who are saying, "I could never do FlyLady's routines.", I understand where you are coming from. However, she has some solid advice to offer that has worked for thousands of people, and I would not even mention her if I had not found my life improved by something she teaches. The thing that befuddles us spoonies is the energy deficit with which we struggle daily. That is why I suggest working on one habit a month, especially for people who have been extraordinarily sedentary. Furthermore, as someone who has fibromyalgia, I found that was all I could concentrate on in the beginning. As I began to feel stronger, I added another habit to work on, and as I have mentioned in prior blogs, I would check off the habits on my calendar if I did them that day. There have been times I have had to repeat the process, because I had a lengthy flare-up; and that is fine, because every time I repeat it, I know this method works. In fact, I am to a point now, I think I can actually get through all 31 of the steps. And I know I do not have to do it perfectly to see improvement. After all, these are baby steps.
In Day 5 of FlyLady's 31 Beginner Babysteps, she reminds her readers to turn their negative thoughts into positive thoughts. It is amazing to me how I can say something to myself I would consider rude and judgmental yet, I would not speak that way to other people. I have found turning negative self-talk into positive self-talk has a better long range effect on my emotions and actions. Doing this helps my attitude immensely.
Finally, I know that everyday I am able to work on improving something basic to my well-being and my family's well-being is worth doing. I may not do it perfectly, but that is all right. The point is I am working towards a goal, which I can see has already improved my life. I am no longer the young woman that can clean the house in one day. I have to work with what I have. And I feel blessed and thankful, because I am well on my way to learning to manage my life in a way that will fit who I am now.
What I have learned is I can accomplish many things in baby steps. This keeps life's challenges and chores from being overwhelming, as well as making them more pleasurable. This is why I keep writing and sharing, hoping you will be encouraged to join the dance of balance and grace.
Hi Deobrah! So glad I got introduced to your blog, and I love the idea of the 31 day baby steps. Keep it up!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Ilana. I am trying to stay totally honest here, even on days things don't go so well. I think establishing a routine can help even on those days things don't go as planned. I may talk about that later. I'm glad we are getting to know each other. It's good having people that understand.
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