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From time to time, people with chronic illnesses get viruses and other types of problems on top of The Chronic Illness, whatever yours happens to be. It's not fun, and it can be discouraging to end up with illness on top of illness. In fact, my immediate reaction used to be depression over such things. It would make me frustrated and angry to have setbacks, because I knew it was always hard having to get back on track, which never fit my idea of what "being back" should look like. What I found out is being angry or frustrated over having illness on top of illness does not help me get well any faster. In fact, it makes recovery time drag even more.
Yesterday, I wrote paragraph #1 and #2. I suppose that was my first effort in getting back into routine; however, I can tell you now that not much is going to happen in that area. I am still sick, fighting infection, and my body has become weakened from all that. I did surprise my DH last night by having spaghetti sauce on when he got home last night and the water gradually heating up for the pasta. All he had to do was bring the water to a full boil for the pasta and cook a vegetable. Otherwise, we would have had frozen dinners -- so glad we didn't.
Today, it is obvious that "normal" is not happening here very soon. Therefore, I may as well make the best of it with the occasional quick cleaning of an area in the bathrooms or changing the sheets. Dusting is absolutely out right now. In fact, I will probably use a mask or bandanna to keep that dust out of my sinuses when I finally do it. Quiet activities are hot around here now: reading, watercolors and sketching, puzzles, and TV. Going with the flow is the wisest thing for me.
To return to what I was able to do before I got sick, I will have to take one baby step at a time. From experience, I know it will not be possible for me to get back to my prior schedule at the same place I was. It takes time to build lost muscle strength after a period of inactivity, as well as rebuilding energy. I will have to work on some habits I have let go while I was sick. That is just the way it is. There is no point in berating myself or throwing negative thoughts in my path. It will hinder, not help if I become obsessed with "catching up."
Final words: it is tough when you are a mom who has a chronic illness. I have to admit to wondering how you do it sometimes. I realize that part of being a mom is doing things you don't feel like doing all the time. However, having been a mom of three children, I do remember pushing myself because I had to. Maybe, I am paying for that now: I don't know. When I had children at home, I was healthier than I am now. It takes longer for me to get moving now -- that is fact.
Moms and grandmothers who are caring for grandchildren, how do you do it? What basics of life come first in you to-do list when dealing with being sick yourself? If you don't share, I will give you my picks in the near future; however, I would love to hear from you. If you do not want to leave a comment by name, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and let me know how to credit your email response in my blog: example -- mom of 3, Birmingham, AL.